Shades of Deception

A True Story

Me: “That’s abuse!”

Them: Chorus of Excuses

Denial— “Things were different back then.”

Gaslighting— “Everyone else in the family remembers it differently, did you ever consider you might be wrong?”

Redirection— “Uncle X had it much worse.”

Minimizing— “That’s really not a big deal. I know kids who are beaten daily by their drunken parents.”

Spiritual Bypassing— “He had a hard time showing his affection. He had a quirky personality, but he loved you.”

General Tone & Theme: Just move on. It’s narcissistic to dwell in the past when no one else wants to. You’re making the family uncomfortable.

Me: “The erasure of the abuse is worse than the abuse.”

 

 

Author: KenshoHomestead

Creatively working toward self-sufficiency on the land.

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